What if it’s our differences that contribute the most to each other?
All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory!
I had a great chat with a client this week. He is recovering from a stroke working with me on improving his articulation and vocal quality. He is FINALLY allowing himself to delegate some responsibilities to his staff as he rebrands his business and recovers medically. He has been a ROCK STAR in his field and has built his business that way – with him at center stage and being synonymous with the product he developed and sells. He has the WOW factor with a fancy vocabulary, very adept verbal skills and a truly brilliant mind.
Finding someone that he felt comfortable delegating work to took some time… He is still very anxious that a potential client will fall through the cracks based on the way this other man presents his business. He finds himself in business meetings developing a very tight throat and voice as his body tenses in anticipation of mistakes by this man. When I asked him what was wrong with the way this other man presents the business he said “Nothing – he is brilliant but he’s just not me.”
Through our discussion he found that his anxiety is brought on by his need to CONTROL and an underlining point of view that no one could do his business better than he could.
He has been attempting to shove all his knowledge, vocabulary and exact verbiage into this man in an effort to make a second version of himself which just isn’t working. He isn’t allowing the man to be in his own brilliance. He isn’t allowing him to have the breathing and growing room to figure things out for himself and maybe fall down a few times on the way. And he hasn’t been willing to fully allow this man’s contribution to his business which may make it grow exponentially.
It’s interesting how we do this…
We ask for help or support, it shows up and then we fight and battle to keep some semblance of control. We have a vice grip and try to fuss and fix everything to come out a certain way as opposed to TRUSTING in our choice and the other person’s contribution.
Where have you been doing this? What control could you let go of that would allow the people in your life to contribute to and support you? Would that extra breathing room allow them, you and your creations to grow? What if you took steps to allow others to contribute whenever it was required?
We brainstormed some ways to allow the employee to have room to grow, be his difference and contribute in ways that allowed my client to be comfortable. Maybe you don’t hand over a huge client right away. Maybe he doesn’t do a whole pitch by himself. Maybe some mock presentations and pitches would be helpful learning experiences.
We asked: In what way is his different style a contribution? Where can he add to your pitch? Which clients might receive more from his style – which ones will require you? Who or what else can you add to your business to make it grow?
Are you willing to be out of CONTROL and actually RECEIVE contribution – no matter what it looks like? And are you willing to ask questions and look at other possibilities so that everyone is able to be themselves, contribute their difference and the business can succeed?
P.S. Definitely don’t try this in all your relationships – this definitely won’t work with significant others, families and friends… 😉
Tune into my radio show this Monday at 7pm PST where we will be delving more into this with:
“You’re not just like me? Why not?!”
How often do you try to make everyone just like you? Do you think you have the correct answer, the right way to be or the perfect way to go about doing things? Are you a control freak of magnitude? Does your ‘best’ interest to help others twist into superiority and disempowerment?
Come play with Beyond Speech: Limitless Communication with host Lauren Polly as she shares discoveries on how allowing you AND others to be and choose their difference is truly the kindest thing you can do.
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Ease and Joy,
Lauren