3 Tips for Creating a Life you LOVE!

Creating a Life You Love
I got the kindest compliment from a co-worker today.  “Lauren, I just love your life!”
What was even more wonderful to hear was her next sentence…  “I really love mine too!”
I laughed at her open exuberance as she continued on “Yours is just so different than mine. It’s kinda cool!”
I so enjoy people who are loving what they are creating. And what is our biggest creation? Our LIFE!
Now the life that you love may look very different from someone else’s; different relationships, jobs, adventures, kids or no kids…
This is the case with me and my co-worker. My single wandering gypsy life brings me the joy that her stable suburban married life brings to her.
Our lives look different however the energies that sustain and substantiate those lives are similar.
Happiness. Joy. Peace. Gratitude. Relaxation. Ease.
These are all energies that are not defined. They do not match a similar picture. Your happy doesn’t look like anyone else’s happy. Just as your peace doesn’t look like anyone else’s peace.
One set back I see frequently with clients is the pictures they have in their minds of what their happy life should be and their frustration when life doesn’t show up that way.
If you are struggling with this I invite you to look at:
1.  Are those pictures yours? Or have you bought them from other people? Trying to create a life you love based on other people’s expectations and preferences is quite tricky…

2.  What is beyond those pictures? Pictures are conclusions and only allow you to be happy if you create exactly the image you have in mind. What if the life that makes you happy looks different then you anticipate it would?  What’s required to create that?
3.  What is the ENERGY that accompanies these pictures? Is there lightness in your space? Do you and your body get relaxed? Do you smile? Does it tickle your insides? Do you get excited butterflies? Start to tune into the energy underneath the pictures and the next time something shows up that gives you that energy or sensation choose it – even if it looks different then you think it would.

A life that you love is self-sustaining and easeful when it is built on the energies that fulfill us – not on the mind pictures of what should make us happy.
What if creating a life that you love is as easy as choosing based on what makes you happy, joyful, peaceful, grateful and relaxed?
No matter what it looks like…

The Lie of Emergency

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The Lie of Emergency

The Lie of Emergency

 
As I was rushing through my extra busy patient load at the hospital today I found myself engaging with an old thought pattern.  Everything is an emergency – DO IT NOW!  Stress.  Run.  Don’t breath just move.  Don’t BE just DO!
This thought pattern is so familiar to me after 11 years of hospital work.  Somewhere along the way it became an automatic function for me as soon as I stepped into the building.  It became part of my work outfit, something I would don each day along with my scrubs and lab coat.
Until I realized something very cool…  This thought pattern?  It isn’t mine.  It never was.  It is a by-product of a stressful work environment along with a lot of type-A personalities impelling it at each other.  Sure, some tasks are STAT but even in the medical field they are the minority of the daily ins and outs of the job.
It is easy to get swept away in the energy of the environment.  To be at the effect of it.  Until you make the demand not to be.
I know that if I be present, relax into myself and move at the pace that creates more for me then I accomplish what needs to be done.  Always.  I’m calmer.  I’m happier.  I can contribute more fully to my patients and the other staff.
I get to be the one who functions differently.  I get to inspire by example and set the tone and pace that works for me.
Sometimes I need to remind myself of this.  Like I did today.  But that’s the amazing thing about becoming more conscious.  You become aware of when you aren’t functioning as you.  When you are getting swept away by the environment or other people.  And better yet you have the tools you need to put yourself back on track.
Acknowledge it isn’t yours.  Return the energy to sender.  Ask a question.  Choose to change it.
Is this working for me?
Is this state of mind and current way of being creating what I desire?
Is this really an emergency and something to be stressed over?
What do I know is possible that if would chose it would create more ease?
What could I be or do different here?
I have so enjoyed playing with these amazing Access Consciousness® tools in my work at the hospital, while building my business, in writing my first book, with my family dynamics, in my relationships, with my body…
Wondering how to dive in deeper with these tools?   Ready to build the strength in knowing what works for you and the commitment to have it always?
Emily Russel and I would love to have you join us and the other amazing people choosing the Lake Michigan Retreat for Access Foundation/Level 1 November 5 – 9.
Check out the event info below to see if it sparks some creative potential for you!
https://www.facebook.com/events/992928804084377/
And as always I’m here for sessions or a quick pick me up as needed!
Ease and Joy,
Lauren

Stepping into the Light! New Offerings and tidbits on CREATION!

Stepping into the Light! New Offerings and tidbits on CREATION!

Lauren Polly
As some of you know I just moved to Los Angeles after being on assignment in the High Desert of California for 5 weeks.
My time in the desert was interesting… besides going a tad stir crazy I enjoyed the open sight lines, the beauty of the sand and rocks and the company of a handful of people who opened my ways of seeing the world.  How better?!
It also gave me the SPACE to actualize a few creations that have been bubbling under the surface and creating themselves in the shadows of my awareness.  Now’s the time to allow them to step into the light and be birthed into the world.  They are a culmination of all my classes, sessions and personal explorations over the last 2 years (or 2 trillion give or take a few…)
Are you ready????
Introducing…
The Change
My FIRST publication!  The Change 6: Insights into Self-EmpowermentI had the honor of being hand picked by Toni Robbin’s first mentor, Jim Britt and Jim Lutes to be a co-author in their book series: The Change!
Each chapter holds uplifting, relevant information on how to be empowered and create the life you desire.
It is a global project that has connected me with many powerhouse coaches, visionaries and entrepreneurs all over the world!.  Stay tuned for some wonderful events hosted by me and the other co-authors!
My chapter on “Breaking the Rules of Engagement with How You Communicate” is in book 6.  Get a FREE download of it HERE
The Energetic Orgasm
The Energetic Orgasm Experience!3 guided meditation/energetic exercise audios and eBook that lead you through 7 steps to accessing ORGASMIC energy all the time!
Are you ready to explore your body’s full ORGASMIC potential?
Are you interested in more intense orgasms during sex?
What if I told you there was a way to not only have that but expand that joyful orgasmic energy through your entire body and being?
To access it all the time?  To BE it?  And to utilize it to create your life?
Are you ready to explore a very different perspective?
Accessing and playing with Orgasmic Energy on this deep level changes the way you experience orgasms and sexual pleasure. Sex is better, orgasms are more spaciously intense and best of all the amazing energy doesn’t stay in the bedroom. It permeates your body/mind to allow your life to be a total orgasmic experience!
Join me and my friend Kim Lucien for a FREE google hangout this Tuesday the 20th at 6pm PST to start unlocking this energy in yourself and your body!  Tune in here:  https://plus.google.com/events/c5leuo2j3ea6kq7h2b331k9ubas
Get the FREE eBook that explores the 7 steps HERE.
Ready to dive in? Buy the full product line here: http://shop.laurenpolly.com/
Foundation & Level 1 - Tools to change your life
Lakeside Michigan Retreat!Join myself and fellow Certified Access Consciousness Facilitator Emily Evans Russell for a weekend of play, possibilities and fun in discovering and building your toolbox for practices and simple techniques to changes your life.
This weekend consists of the core classes of Access Consciousness, Foundation and Level 1 (prereq – Access Bars).
What Will You Get Out Of This Weekend?
Feel More Alive
Transform struggle into play
Deepen your relationship with yourself and others
Change habits & patterns that no longer serve you
Increase self-confidence
Deepen the connection and communion with your beautiful body
Be comfortable in your own skin
Tools to be you and have ease in any situation
Find your own happy
Love on your body!
How to create from being instead of doing
Introduce play to every area of your life – from work, to sex, to family life
Operate from no competition with yourself or others
BONUS: We will be having class in an amazing house in Lakeside, Michigan just about 75 minutes from Chicago and right on Lake Michigan. If you choose to stay 1 or more nights during the class, it is only $60/night!
For more info go here: https://www.facebook.com/events/992928804084377/
Talk to God
Talk to the Entities Classes!
Talk to the Entities is a fully comprehensive system for learning how to deal with, facilitate, clear, receive from and have overall ease and peace with the Spirit world.  In these classes and sessions you will learn a set of tools, processes and philosophies that will totally revolutionize the way you think, feel and function with the spirit world.
Entities are a huge part of our world and all of our lives whether you realize it or not.  This topic has been swept under the rug and severely judged for way to long.  People are born with the ability to perceive energy and spirits; it’s a gift not a disability.
Come explore a new way to function with the spirit world; a way of peace, ease and clarity.
I’m so happy to be offering:
Individual sessions: in person or via skype/phone
2 hour Introduction classes: First one in Lake Michigan Novemeber 5th!
2 day Beginner’s classes: First one in Los Angeles November 14-15th!
2-4 hour specialty classes in specific areas with the spirit world: Stay tuned!
Check out more info here: http://talktotheentities.com/facilitators/lauren-polly/

The Most Important Relationship of Your Life

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If you ranked the relationships in your life in order of the priority you give them, how far down on the list would your relationship with yourself be?  Does it even make the list?
A few years ago I didn’t have a true relationship with myself.  I didn’t even know I should… I had no sense that a relationship with myself was a possibility.
I busied myself with being things for other people.  Need a shoulder to cry on?  Need someone to be silly and make you laugh?  Need a direct conversation to hold you accountable?  I would be what I knew the other person would value so I could then find value in myself.
I built a pseudo relationship with myself through other people’s perceptions of me.  Their need and appreciation of the role I fulfilled for them became my only relationship with myself.  The only way I knew myself.
Sound familiar to some of you?
It wasn’t until a dear friend accused me of being an emotional flasher – showing all my vulnerable glory in a split second then hiding again behind my cloak of who I was to her – that I started to look at this.
She challenged me to show more of myself to her.  To take down the walls, throw open the cloak and be me in our friendship – not who I thought she needed and wanted me to be.
What a gift…
She unwittingly started my journey of discovering who I was, without the confines of the roles I had taken on for other people…
Would you be willing to do the same?
Who you are outside of the roles and needs you fulfill for others?
What would be different if you allowed your inner voice to drawl your attention as much, if not more so, then the voices around you?
What if you fostered and nurtured your most important relationship of all – the one with yourself?
Ease and Joy,
Lauren
MORE PLAY:
Interested in exploring this topic further?  My FREE radio show this Monday the 14th is about Being Your Own Playmate.  Emily Russel and I will be sharing tools to build intimacy and fun with yourself – no matter what.  How many doors can we kick open?  Click here for listening information: https://www.facebook.com/events/1626623364292363/

The Lie of Loneliness – Lauren Polly

The Lie of Loneliness
The Lie of Loneliness

The Lie of Loneliness: As most of you know I have been traveling the world for the last few months.

Alone.
Along the way I have been to events or met up with folks for company but the vast majority of my time has been alone.
I’m getting asked frequently if I’m lonely…
“But who do you talk to?”
“Who do you eat with?”
“Who do you share your experience with?”
Well, me.  I spend my time with me.  I’m not lonely.  I have me.
I never got how different I was in this.
For most the idea of being alone for a long period of time, heck even a short period of time, leads to loneliness.
Sure, there are times I’d like to be around others.  Times when conversation, joking or other people’s energy are a contribution to me and lead to fun.
But it isn’t required…  I’m not lonely without it.  I’m simply alone.
I wonder…
Are you willing to be your own playmate?
Can you have fun with yourself?
Do you like yourself enough to revel in your own company?
If you had more ease with yourself would you ever be lonely?
I invite you to try out some alone time.  Take yourself on a date.  Take a trip.  Do something that you always desired to do but haven’t yet because you couldn’t find anyone to do it with you.
Be alone.
It is different than being lonely.
Try it out and see…  How much fun can you have in your own company?
Ease and Joy,
Lauren
P.S. Choosing to Be Your Own Playmate Retreat is coming up September 25-27 on beautiful Lake Michigan!  My friend and fellow Access Consciousness Certified Facilitator, Emily Russell, will be co-hosting this 2.5 day event.  We will be exploring how to find and be more of you to have fun no matter what!  Even when you are alone…

Wanderlust

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Wanderlust

Oh, I’m indulging these days…  My wanderlust is in full swing and I have to say it is FUN!

I have visited: Chicago, Portland, New Orleans, Copenhagen and Oslo in the last 2 months.  Next up is Cork and Dublin Ireland, HOME to San Francisco then Maui and Lake Michigan in the next 2 months.
Funny thing is…  I NEVER thought I could do this.  Never.
I never thought I could travel to all these cool places period, but all in a row?  With plenty of space in between to play, explore, take AND facilitate classes… Nope.
I was of the mindset that to travel you needed a group (or at least a partner), huge amounts of extra cash, plenty of time (i.e. retirement), and a whole host of other reasons…
Then I got tired of limiting myself with all the reasons why I couldn’t.  I got bored with telling myself no.
I applied the tools I learned and now teach from Access Consciousness.  I chose to start creating my life.
How?  I started to ask questions…
Where would I like to go?  What would be fun?  What’s required to travel with ease?
Things started to show up.  Invitations.  Classes.  Extra cash.  Possibilities.
And then I started to choose.  And guess what?  More showed up…
What have you been desiring to do?
Travel?  New job?  Start your own business?  Change your body?  Create a relationship?
Have you decided that you can’t do it?  What mindset do you have that is standing in the way?  Are you tired of telling yourself no?
My advice?  Start asking questions.  This is one of the basic tools in Access Consciousness and the one that has been the most dynamic for me personally.
Ask: What’s required to create this with ease?  Then start choosing what feels light and fun for you.
You, like me, may be surprised by what starts to show up!
Ease and Joy,
Lauren
P.S.  I’m introducing new on-line individual coaching programs!  They are a mix of my different session types and are designed to provide you with the support, tools and empowerment you need to start to create your life on your terms.  There are 1, 3 and 6 month options.  Click here for more details on the specifics! https://laurenpolly.com/kick-ass-coaching.html
 

Enjoying the creative process: Taking your focus off the finish line

Enjoying the creative process

Enjoying the creative process

As some of you know I have been writing my book about overcoming Bipolar and coming off medications.  The first part of the book was fun, easeful and just flowed out of me.  This second part is different…  It has been irritating, jagged and illusive.   Quite frankly it’s game of hide and seek has been pissing me off for months…
I’m in New Orleans now facilitating classes and was wondering through the French Quarter talking to my book.  What is it going to take for you to come out with ease?  What would you like to be?  What does this final part look like?
I was getting nothing from it except a blank mind to go with my blank page…
Then I turned the corner and the sign “Faulkner’s Book store” jumped out at me.  The golden historic sign told me that this was where he lived and wrote.  A bubble of excitement ran through me.
I went in.  I explored classics and newly published novels.  I held and cradled poetry books, children’s books and biographies.
The JOY of CREATION was so palpable.  Then it hit me…  The difference with writing part 2 of my book…
The joy of the creative process was gone…
Part 1 is amazing – will part 2 be as good? JUDGEMENT!!!!
I’m almost finished – what will it take to be done?  DASHING to the FINISH line – not enjoying the journey…
Will people like it?  Looking for an outcome and approval…
My trip to the bookstore changed my questions:
Book – how much fun can we have together?
What else can I create that would contribute energy and joy to this project?
What joy of creation is there that if I would engage with it would allow the book to speak to me and flow out with ease?
Notice a different energy in those questions?
What have you been creating that if you were to take away the significance and reclaim the joy would increase the ease?
What if you took your focus off the finish line and enjoyed where you are in the creative process?
What could you do to or where could you go to find inspiration?
What would be fun?
Off to write a chapter or 2…  I wonder what will show up.
Ease and Joy,
Lauren
P.S. My first publication is coming out next week!!!!  I was invited to co-author a book with Self Help big wigs Jim Britt (Toni Robbins first mentor) and Jim Lutes.  The Change Books are a series of books focusing on insights into self-empowerment.  I’m in Book 6 with a chapter on ‘Breaking the Rules of Engagement with How You Communicate.’  What if there was a more expansive way of engaging with the world then how you were taught?  You can tune into my radio show tomorrow evening at 7pm PST to hear more about this topic and to celebrate the book launch with me.  Just click here to listen in…    http://a2zen.fm/listen-now/

Are you ready to take down the walls?

Do you think vulnerability is a weakness

Do you think vulnerability is a weakness?  I know I did.
As I was growing up I had “mental issues.”  I spent years going to doctors, being medicated and undergoing weekly therapy for my brittleness, fragility and sensitivity to other people.
It was wrong to perceive others.  It was dangerous.  I was being over taken and becoming lost in their worlds.  I was told that I had this problem because I was too open.  I had to learn to draw boundaries.
The purpose of these boundaries were to give me a sense of who I was, a way to protect myself from other people’s actions and energies and to be able to decipher what was okay to let in and what had to be kept out.  Over the years I became an expert gate keeper.
It wasn’t until I started working with the tools of Access Consciousness TM that I discovered what a limitation these boundaries are.  And how much energy I was using against myself to keep them in place.  They had become a huge barrier in knowing myself for who I really am, seeing where other people are functioning from, being able to receive from others and finding a clear path to the creation of my living.
Through the tools of Access consciousness TM I have flipped this view point on its ear.  I have been exploring my willingness and ability to be open and vulnerable as a strength, not a weakness.  I have been more willing to stop manning the gate of what to let in and what to keep out.  I have become more willing to take down the walls for good.
Have you been looking for a way to create a greater life for yourself and others?
What if vulnerability was the first step to access that potential?
I’m launching an international 7 day exploration into the world of vulnerability where we will explore all of this and more using the power house tools of Access Consciousness TM.
Would you like to join me?
7 days of questions, exercises and tools via
2 Live 60 minute tele calls on 6/1 and 6/7 both at 2pm PST
1 Clearing loop
Closed Facebook group to share, inspire and encourage each other.
Investment in you: $70
Event information and registration link here:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/7-days-of-vulnerability-with-lauren-polly-cfmw-june-1-7-tickets-17127803722
What if you were willing to drop the walls, false fronts, lines of defense and be vulnerable with yourself and the world?
What could you create then?
Ease and Joy,
Lauren

Ever wonder if all this effort is really creating more?

Effort is really creating more

Effort is really creating more
I went to a Yin yoga class today here in Chicago. Yin is all about NO EFFORT. It uses your body weight and gravity open you up. The teacher keep saying “No muscles tension allowed!” This was a little strange for me coming from 17 years of classical dance and yoga training where muscles tension was a must.
But something interesting occurred while breathing deep, being encouraged to moan or sigh my tension out and bending into yoga postures with ‘no muscles allowed’… I relaxed into me.
This “me” I relaxed into is very different then the “me” that I’ve been living as for most of my life. It’s an energetic awareness I have discovered throughout my work with Access Consciousness TM. It’s like taking whatever effort I use to think a lot, act like I’m ‘supposed to’ and project myself into other people’s lives to give them what they need down a few notches. What I find in that space of relaxation is the ability to turn the real me up. Not through pushing out but resting back into myself, allowing that energy to invite possibilities into existence and to choose my actions from there.
Take a look at what you are creating: your body, a business, a relationship… How much effort are you using? How much of a push or force is there? What would occur if you relaxed into yourself? What if you took the projected push that so many use as their operative state in this reality down a few notches and relaxed into you? Would that look different?
What if creation didn’t require any effort at all? What if living didn’t require it either?
Today I needed a reminder of that and my body required the space to play with it that the yoga class created. What could you and your body choose to allow you to stop efforting and start relaxing into you? And that reminder/space may look very different then you think it will…
Are willing to live and create effortlessly?
Ease and Joy,
Lauren

What adventure lies in the unplanned space in your life?

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I did it. I left my stable 40 hour work week at the hospital to take off on an adventure.
I don’t have much planned… A few classes over the summer in fun locales that I’ve never been to before (Chicago, Portland, and New Orleans)… A trip back east to see family and friends… 2 books in mid writing process…
I’m not used to having this much space in my schedule. I’ve always worked 9-5 Monday through Friday, had my stable paycheck to be able to balance my budget and the PUSH of creating my business and projects in the spare moments in between.
Now there is open space… It’s unnerving and freeing at the same time.
It has me wondering…
What adventure lies in the unplanned space in your life?
If we schedule things to the hilt and have only spare moments to be spontaneous then are we really open to life’s surprising adventures?
What if the universe has something in store for you beyond what you can plan?
“Empty” space in peoples schedule so often gets drilled down to “no money coming in” “stagnation” or “wasted time.”
We like color in the picture in advance so we know what to expect, know that we are doing something and to give some sense of safety/familiarity in this unpredictable world.
But what if this is a limited viewpoint on life and the world?
What if the open space we so often identify as empty is actually full of possibilities?
What adventure lies in the unplanned, spontaneous and open space in our lives?
I don’t have an answer for that… Only the question… But I’m excited to explore…
Ease and Joy,
Lauren